Women labor in love everyday. It is a beautiful gift from above and the stories shared are absolutely amazing. In this series, mothers all over the world share their stories about their labor experiences and advice for expecting moms.
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Early in the Morning
It was the morning of my sister’s birthday, July 18, and I woke up around 5 a.m., frustrated with the on-and-off-again contractions that had kept me awake during the night. I was afraid to start timing them. Since every time I did that they would taper off after a good hour or two and leave me discouraged that Evelyn was NEVER going to come. But at 8 a.m., I started tracking, saying I’d call the doctor at 9 a.m. since I had an ultrasound scheduled for that afternoon anyway. The contractions were 5-7 minutes apart. And when I called, the nurse said since I was a week past my due date I needed to go to the hospital. Even though the same kind of contractions had sent me there two weeks earlier and proved unproductive.
At The Hospital
I was less than hopeful as we packed the car and I consoled myself figuring at least we’d be in Weymouth where our ultrasound was scheduled. I had no other plans that day than to wait for baby. We arrived around 10:30 a.m. and the examination process began. After monitoring us both, they found that my blood pressure was concernedly high. However, everything else seemed great. Unfortunately, I was only 1 measly centimeter dilated. They took blood work, had us eat lunch and walk the halls, and then rescheduled my ultrasound for in the hospital. The ultrasound looked good, but the doctor said I shouldn’t go home overdue. Especially, if both mom and baby weren’t “perfect.”
Not Going Home
At around 2:30 p.m, we were sent back to the birthing unit and told that — HUZZAH! — they were keeping me. Miraculously, as soon as we got admitted, my blood pressure started calming down, haha! Casey and I were sent again to walk the halls. My contractions were getting more intense, and I was really hopeful we were making progress. Here’s me drinking water from my “Pregnancy Pineapple Cup” and walking with Casey.
We labored until 8:30 p.m., with a mix of hall-walking, lunges and sitting on the birthing ball. I ate tons of ice chips because #1 I was craving them and #2 the hospital had the best ice chips ever. When the midwife came back to check my cervix, I was tired, the contractions were painful. I was eager to hear how much I’d progressed. The report? Nothing. I was a “loose 1 cm” at best, and my mom had just hopped in the car to come to the hospital.
As you can imagine, I was extremely discouraged.
That’s when the midwife gave us some options:
Walk more and try to get labor going on it’s own
Take Nubane which might “melt the cervix” and if not, would at least let me sleep a little,
Or try Pitocin.
She recommended the Nubane, saying that even if I needed Pitocin later to really get things going, I’d have gotten some rest.
I didn’t want to go to sleep because I was impatient and I felt bad that my mom arrived only to see me drifting off. But, I took the midwife’s recommendation. The Nubane made me groggy enough to let me lay down through the contractions. However, as the night kept going, I started to feel them really ramping up. Soon enough I woke up from the Nubane with terrible back labor. If any part of the process was “excruciating,” it was that excruciating back labor contractions in my lower back. Soon after those began, I told the nurse I felt tons of pressure — pushing was imminent. I was exaggerating, of course, but the midwife did find at 1:20 a.m. that I was 7 cm dilated!
The Final Three Hours: A Blur
Evelyn Erica Fernanda McKeewas born at 4 a.m. — on the dot — after 2.5 hours of a blur of back labor and pushing. I remember hearing the nurse say that it was 4 a.m. and thinking, “What!? Last I remember it was 1:20!
Casey caught her and the nurses quickly transferred her to my chest where I was in awe of her tiny body. Talk about surreal! I tried to be strong for her for a little longer so she could stay skin to skin with me. Nonetheless, the after-birth stitching took over an hour and I needed nitrous oxide to get through that slightly-traumatizing aftermath. Since the baby couldn’t be near the gas, Casey took her to keep her warm. It wasn’t until the sewing was all done that I at last broke down and cried. Every ounce of me had been drained, but here she was: Our little miracle. She was born at 4 a.m., weighing 7 lbs. oz. and was 20 inches long. Thank the Lord, she was healthy in every way.
Did you receive an epidural or pain medications?I didn’t receive an epidural, but I had Nubane during my labor to help progress it along, as well as local anesthetic and nitrous oxide to help me get through the stitching process.
How did you deal with your contractions?Silence. I had terrible back labor, and I found the best thing to do was kneel on my hands and knees, breathe and keep my eyes closed. I didn’t think about anything except getting through the contraction, and I didn’t speak. My husband kept bringing me cool towels for my head and back, and he stood by my side.
What would you have done differently or will do differently next time?I’m going to seriously consider an epidural and work really hard on not tearing. I didn’t prepare much before birth because I thought going without an epidural would mean I didn’t tear: Jokes on me! The tearing was the worst part of the entire birth (much worse than back labor), and I wish I had done exercises to avoid it.
Funniest memory:Oh my I don’t remember anything “funny” honestly! Until I got the Nubane, the contractions were quite manageable and my husband and I had a good time pacing the hospital and chatting when I wasn’t in pain, but from then-on it was all business.
Tip(s) for new moms:Get help. Line up help. Call all your friends and family and say, “I need help.” I wish I had lined up more help before the baby came, but I just assumed help might come if I needed it and otherwise I would just make it work. But people don’t know you need them unless you ask, and I was too afraid to ask. Also, be on the look-out for postpartum depression symptoms, and make a plan to get professional help should you get a diagnosis.
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Oh my I don’t know if I’m strong or crazy! haha. I’m definitely considering getting one next time around. Now that I know I *can* do it, I don’t feel like I *need* to again!
Back labor without any pain meds is total hell. I did it for 44 hrs and finally lost my mind, started cussing out nurses to call my doctor because I was done. Like you, I was not dilating at all but nothing productive was being done. My whole labor was in my back and I never really felt a true “contraction”
Wow Natalie, it sounds like you rocked at labor. I’m a labor nurse and see many of women who get discourage hearing they are still 1 cm and start begging for a cesarean. Congratulations for you and your healthy baby.
Thank you so much! 1 cm after all that time in the hospital was a huge blow — so glad that Nubane worked. Had I woken up and not progressed, I don’t know what I would have done. I was already 2 weeks overdue and sooo done being pregnant haha.
You are a warrior! I was induced and had all kinds of medications to help me along because I was high risk and they wanted it to go as smoothly as possible. So glad your little girl finally came out to meet you and it sounds like she’s doing great, Congratulations!
Thanks for sharing with Mom Blog Tribe!
And you are too! Pain meds are a wonderful thing haha. I remember having the nitrous oxide at the end and feeling like I was flying. A high-risk pregnancy is so hard. I don’t think I would have had the emotional strength to go through it. I hope your baby is doing well <3
Oh you are a good woman! Every time I think about giving birth I shudder — I’m so happy my baby girl is here safe and sound, but yikes! Birth is tough stuff!
Labor and delivery is such a beautiful experience! I was induced with all three of mine for different reasons and had an epidural with all three, however with my oldest the epidural only worked for a half an hour, to suppress some of the labor pains, then it wore off. So I can definitely relate! Cheers to motherhood! 🙂
Thank you for sharing your beautiful birth story. My babies were both homebirths without epidurals, drugs or anything else! It was a ride indeed! I can totally relate about it being a blur at times. I guess the body has a way of producing its own drugs to help us cope with the privilege of giving birth 💗 congratulations and many blessings 💞
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Oh wow!!! I can’t imagine labor without the epidural. I got it both times and don’t regret one thing about it. You are so strong!
Oh my I don’t know if I’m strong or crazy! haha. I’m definitely considering getting one next time around. Now that I know I *can* do it, I don’t feel like I *need* to again!
Back labor without any pain meds is total hell. I did it for 44 hrs and finally lost my mind, started cussing out nurses to call my doctor because I was done. Like you, I was not dilating at all but nothing productive was being done. My whole labor was in my back and I never really felt a true “contraction”
Ahhh! 44 hours!?! I think the actual back labor only lasted about 5 for me. You are amazing! I don’t think I could have handled that.
Wow Natalie, it sounds like you rocked at labor. I’m a labor nurse and see many of women who get discourage hearing they are still 1 cm and start begging for a cesarean. Congratulations for you and your healthy baby.
Thank you so much! 1 cm after all that time in the hospital was a huge blow — so glad that Nubane worked. Had I woken up and not progressed, I don’t know what I would have done. I was already 2 weeks overdue and sooo done being pregnant haha.
You are a warrior! I was induced and had all kinds of medications to help me along because I was high risk and they wanted it to go as smoothly as possible. So glad your little girl finally came out to meet you and it sounds like she’s doing great, Congratulations!
Thanks for sharing with Mom Blog Tribe!
And you are too! Pain meds are a wonderful thing haha. I remember having the nitrous oxide at the end and feeling like I was flying. A high-risk pregnancy is so hard. I don’t think I would have had the emotional strength to go through it. I hope your baby is doing well <3
It’s been over 17 years since I went through this and remember it like it was yesterday! Mostly the joy though. Mostly!
Oh you are a good woman! Every time I think about giving birth I shudder — I’m so happy my baby girl is here safe and sound, but yikes! Birth is tough stuff!
Good for you mama! And oh I had flashbacks to the thought of tearing and being sewn afterwards. So happy it didn’t happen with my second.
Labor and delivery is such a beautiful experience! I was induced with all three of mine for different reasons and had an epidural with all three, however with my oldest the epidural only worked for a half an hour, to suppress some of the labor pains, then it wore off. So I can definitely relate! Cheers to motherhood! 🙂
Thank you for sharing your beautiful birth story. My babies were both homebirths without epidurals, drugs or anything else! It was a ride indeed! I can totally relate about it being a blur at times. I guess the body has a way of producing its own drugs to help us cope with the privilege of giving birth 💗 congratulations and many blessings 💞
You’re a warrior!! I could never have done it without an epidural. But every story is different and special in its own way…Way to go Mama!