This is a contributed post and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of Meet The Harris Family.
When you become a parent, you make a solemn vow. “I swear that will never make the same mistakes as my mom and dad.” That’s awesome because you and your kid can be best buddies now. Then, they start to grow up and develop a personality and everything goes south. Before you know it, you’re having the same arguments and becoming more like your parents every day. Forget the vow – the principle is at stake!
Families argue and it’s healthy, but seeing red over every little thing is pointless. Kids are grudge holders and will make you feel like the worst person in the world. Usually, it’s best to avoid the small things and here’s how.
“You Spend Too Much Time Online.”
Kids, and this won’t come as a shock, hate it when their parents preach. Firstly, they think they are always right, but, in this case, there is an air of hypocrisy. Because you came from an older generation, you have no idea what it’s like to grow up with technology. Still, you force ask them politely to go and play outside like it’s the 1950s. Video games are a way of life for the younger generation, and it’s important to note this fact. By doing this, you can come to a compromise and let them play on the PS4 while encouraging them to be active.
“Brake, Brake, BRAKE!”
The odds are high that your children or child will want to learn to drive when they are of age. Great, think most parents – it’ll save us waiting on them hand and foot. Yes, it will once they have a license. Until then, it’s down to you and the instructor to show them ropes which is scary at times. You never know when you’ll need the number of a personal injury lawyer. Even so, shouting is never the answer because it harms their confidence. And, if they think they’re a bad driver, they’ll never pass. A great method is to be in the car and say nothing. Giving them instructions can be counterproductive.
“I Forbid It!”
Stereotypically, this is the sort of thing a dad will say to their teenage daughter. After all, teens go through phases where let’s say their judgment is clouded. However, forbidding it, as clichéd as it sounds only makes them more infatuated. Then, a phase becomes the real deal and you’re stuck with the prospect of living with him forever! All you can do is ask about his background and check him out while ensuring your child is happy. If they are, all you can do is wait it out they get a better offer. Thank God!
“You’ll Do As I Say!”
There’s no doubt that children need discipline but you have to dole it out for the right reasons. Because they upset you and they deserve it isn’t a good excuse. Okay, no one will question you on it, yet the kids will start to resent the relationship dynamic. And, that is when trust and respect begin to go out of the window. Sometimes there is no time for an explanation, but, when there is, be sure to show them why you did it. If they disagree, they can at least see you are consistent.
What is the argument you dread having the most with your kids?
