Keeping The Romance Alive After “I Do”

The Big Day!

There’s a huge build-up to your wedding day, and if you’ve been through the process yourself you’ll know exactly what I am talking about. Wedding planning is stressful enough and can make couples go a little cray cray. Interestingly,  it also comes with a huge anti-climax when the big event is over. One minute, you’re the center of attention and introducing your couple style to the world. And the next you’re coming back from your honeymoon with your suitcase full of swimwear that needs washing and sand in your shoes.

Post-Wedding Depression

The post-wedding slump may not feel very good, but that doesn’t mean that the most romantic part of your life is over. Quite the contrary, it’s just beginning for you! You and your partner can get on with framing the pressed flowers in your bouquet and putting the wedding invites into display frames complete with lights. The romance continues into your marriage. In fact, your relationship may not even feel any different to you both. Some couples feel a shift in their relationship when they say, “I do.” While others don’t notice the difference and continue plodding along in their happy lives. Happily ever after isn’t easy for a lot of people, though, especially when it comes to that post-wedding depression. Think about it…you’ve spent months talking about your bridal beauty and admiring your flowers. Then it the time comes for you to declare your love publicly to the world. For some, it can be hard to find that level of romance after the event.

You don’t have to be married for decades to run out of ideas on how to spark the romance. It’s a common misconception that boredom happens later in married life. However, it can happen from the beginning if you don’t nurture it. Your relationship can only flourish if you continue to appreciate each other after your wedding in the same way that you did before you got married. Life together doesn’t have to be full of depression and arguments. Cherish each other. Go on dates. Leave each other fridge magnets notes and take time to do all the little things that your partner will love. All of these things will help you to feel closer as a couple, and solidify why you chose to marry in the first place.

It Takes Two

Romance makes your marriage different from all other relationships. You could choose to slip into a comfortable slump – and there will be times you’ll love that slump. A slump full of silences that are cozy, not awkward. There will be times, though, that leaving water balloons in buckets for your husband at the front door and bombing him the second he gets in is a better idea. You need to keep your marriage full of romance and alive with love so that you can continue to have fun together and appreciate each other better. Commitment doesn’t give you a happy marriage; hard work, love and putting each other first sometimes does instead. Put yourself as a couple first and your marriage will thrive.